• LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.world
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      I’m going to say overall many places they prefer youth. As if guys are expected to trim or shave their face, the people expecting it don’t like men in the context your talking

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    I asked my ex gf once if I should shave, her reply was that it didn’t matter to her.

    Several weeks later while I was shaving my beard, I had one of those sporadic moments where I thought to myself…why not? So I kept shaving. Shaved my head, chest etc, everything. By the time I was done I was more aerodynamic than a fighter jet.

    My gf refused to talk to me after that for two weeks.

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      Smart man. I heard that the hair is where the germs hide and we need to get rid of hair in order to be pure.

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      Just checking: did she not talk to you because you were too slippery, too scratchy, you turned out to have looked better with your netherbeard, or because you left hair all over the bathroom?

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        I think it was several things, but the reason she gave me was that I looked too young. ( I was in my mid-40’s and only a few years younger than her.)

        I suspect that her bi-polar issues played into that though as well. She was a very difficult person to keep happy.

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        I was tempted to, but I was concerned people would think I’m a chemo patient so I left them alone.

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    Extremely controversial take, I’m sure: you don’t shave for other people. You shave for yourself.

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      The only part of my hair grooming that is “for myself” is trimming my mustache so food does not get caught in it.

      Everything else is is for looks and other people look at me much more often than I look at myself. Even when I see myself in a mirror, I try to see myself as others would see me. My wife is the person that looks at me the most and is the person whose opinion is most important to me, so I ask for her opinion about how I groom myself.

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      I shave for other people. If no one was gonna suck my dick, then I would never shave - why go to the trouble, after all? But most people don’t like hair getting stuck in their throat, so I shave. Because I care about my partners’ experience.

    • Master@sh.itjust.works
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      Yep. You do you first and foremost. Then deal with the haters. I like my arms and legs trimmed down to 1/8". I also like my balls smooth. I can compromise and leave some bush up top if that’s what my partner wants (though now that my wife is dead no one else to comment I guess) but the others are not really up for debate.

      I also agree with that other guy that trimming your armpits goes a long way to helping look clean and not being overly sweaty. But a solid no to shaving them smooth. So uncomfortable and problematic when it starts to grow back.

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      I had a girlfriend who said she doesn’t like it that I trim my stuff short and I had to break it to her that I understand her preference but I do it for my own preference. I wouldn’t expect her to cut her hair or paint her nails a particular way to suit me.

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      Same! Especially forearms and chest… Yum!

      If my guy prefers to keep things short for personal preference reasons of course I’d never ask him to grow it longer for me. I think it’s important for guys that don’t want to shave to know that there are lots of us out there that find body hair super sexy!

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      Sounds like you’d be into strictly my buttcrack

      Edit: I wrote that as a joke but knowing you I’m not sure who’s laughing

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    I have never shaved any part of my body except the head but ngl when dick gets big and it tangles in the bush somehow that pain happens and the only way to solve it is to rotate my dick in public with hands but I can’t do that soo gotta walk nonchalant

    The chest hair is also a problem with zip tshirt it always tangles in that spikes

    My friends have shaved their chest hair and some even dih should I also do it My parents says no but never tells the reason just no

    I am a adult btw

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        Because of the extreme bendiness of a flaccid penis, and the highly dynamic forces at play in the crotch area during everyday activities like walking, sitting, lying in bed, transitioning between positions, and wearing clothes, people sometimes end up with a pube caught inside their foreskin.

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      I keep everything groomed but never really shave anything smooth.

      I’ve tried it and it feels nice for a second but the itching/scratching as it grows back just isn’t worth it.

      But I keep basically my entire body “groomed” to some extent, I just use some electric clippers and a short guards. You want it long enough to not be scratchy or itchy, but short enough to not be a tangled mess.

      I’m a hairy adult btw.

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      I occasionally shave my armpits. Having hair pop out of your shirt sleeves is not a great look, and I find they’re less sweaty when shaved.

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      Trim the pubes, no need to go completely smooth. If you go completely smooth it is itchy when it grows back, plus you’ll notice it a LOT more when it gets sweaty. I guess it could be the same for chest hair?