• P1k1e@lemmy.world
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    10 hours ago

    I’m old, so I’m sure this will be discounted as my experience being disconnected from a younger one but here it is anyway.

    If a woman is truly interested in you, she WILL pursue you. Emotional Availability, if you don’t know what it is look it up and BECOME it, it’ll change your life, is the most important first step. Probably save you from a heart attack as well.

    Ever seen a mid looking guy with a bombshell? It’s not just money, sometimes folks just like each other’s vibes, and women are less visually stimulated than men. You are seen even when you’re not trying or paying attention, and your vibe is everything.

    Lastly the day you no longer NEED a woman in your life, one will find you. Find a way to be happy alone, and you’ll never want for company again. Works wonders for cats

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      8 hours ago

      Nothing you said is true across the board. There are plenty of people who won’t express romantic interests regardless of how emotionally available the person they’re interested in is.

      I’ve had several women admit years later that they were interested in me and were waiting for me to make the first move.

      Part of the reason why many men tend to think that simple kindness is a sign of romantic interest is because women generally don’t make their interest in them obvious, so they look for any sort of clue that it might be true.

      The other part is that it’s fairly rare for men to receive genuine care and kindness from women they’re not romantically involved with.

      That’s not to say that women never express obvious romantic interest in men, but it’s not exactly common for women to make the first move.

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        5 hours ago

        Nothing is ever true across the board. Women are not a hive mind of unified thought. BUT, if your looking for a woman who would express interest in you, rather than vice versa, I stand by my statements. I’m not talking about common, I’m talking about what he “dreams of”

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      8 hours ago

      Lastly the day you no longer NEED a woman in your life, one will find you. Find a way to be happy alone, and you’ll never want for company again. Works wonders for cats

      I don’t disagree with the other things you said, but this analogy is a flop. I wanna pet cats because they are fluffy, not because they arent needy. As evidence, I submit the fact that I also like petting dogs.